I'm thinking a woman should let her man know what she wants...

After talking to several of my friends for the last week or so it has come to my attention that each and every relationship they are in with a man is different. Some are married for a few years, some are newly married, some are single with an "old reliable" to count on, some are dating, some are becoming life-time girlfriends in front of my eyes.
I hear my married friends talk about how it seems that their relationship isn't what it used to be when they first got with their boyfriend turned husband. It seems almost as if these couples have gotten so comfy with one another that they forgot the most important thing, just being there for one another. I also hear this from my friends that are becoming life-time girlfriends.
Ladies we are not getting married to pick up where our husband's mother's left off at! We are committing our lives to these men to love them and make a life with them. They in turn should not forget to tell us every once in a while that we are beautiful and surprise us the way they did when our love was just blooming. I'm not saying that they need to come in and thank us for everything we've done that day, day in and day out.
I have a friend that just got married about 2 months ago and her main gripe is that now they are married her man has starting treating her like she is his caregiver not his partner in life! Marriage is a two way street and it takes commitment from both of you. All it takes to make it work is to start with communication. If you feel this way you need to talk to him about it- not in a way that makes it seem as if it's a " this is how I tell you all the way's you been fucking up lately" conversation!!
I think that men need to understand that as women we wear many hats depending on our situation in life; wife, mother, friend, confidant, lover and many more. A man needs to learn to be more open with what's running through his mind-we are not mind readers nor do we want to be!! Any relationship needs to have time where you can just be a couple. Do things with only each other, no kids, no in-laws. And more importantly take time to ask how our day is and just treat us with respect and love.