Thanks to my XM radio....

Thanks to me, Ford, XM Radio, and the Playboy XM Station, we have today's topic of discussion..."sexomnia" and yes, apparently, this is an ACTUAL condition... Sassy*(name has been changed to protect certain people lol) and I have joked about it, and then today, while driving down the road, she heard them discussing it which led me to of course, google it, here's what I found! lmao We've all had the nights where we were too tired to have sex before going to sleep, to only be awoken a while or a few hours later by our partner, but is it possible to initiate, or participate in this and NOT remember? hmmm??Understanding SexsomniaEveryone has heard of the sleepwalker, the sleep eater and the sleep talker. However, there is another sleep disorder that people are less likely to discuss: sexsomnia.What is Sexsomnia?Sexsomnia, also called sex sleep, was first identified in 1996 and is a classified sleep disorder characterized as a non-rapid-eye-movement (N-REM) parasomnia. (A parasomnia is a disorder characterized by partial arousals during sleep or during transitions between wake and sleep.)People who experience sexsomnia engage in sex while sleeping, though they have no memory of their actions once they wake up. The intensity of this sleep sex varies, with some sexsomnia victims merely moaning and groping, and others engaging in sexual activity either with themselves or with another person in the bed. On the extreme end of the scale are those who become violent and dangerous while performing sexual acts.Specific causes of the disorder are unknown, but some scientists believe that there is a genetic component involved with sexsomnia. Research also suggests that sleep sex is caused by a genuine sleep disorder combined with other emotional problems.Who Suffers from Sexsomnia?Researchers believe that sexsomnia affects between one-tenth to one percent of the population, although this estimate might not be accurate, since so many people are too ashamed to seek help. At the present time, it is believed that mostly adult men suffer from the disorder. (Two-thirds of reported cases are males.)Effects of SexsomniaIt is important to seek medical help for this condition, as a sufferer may experience many negative emotions, including:angerconfusiondenialfearfrustrationguiltrepulsionshame.These negative emotions often lead to tremendous stress.Clearly, relationships are put to the test when couples have to deal with this awkward and sometimes dangerous problem. Also, many sexsomnia sufferers are concerned about legal issues, as sexual advances occurring during sleep can be unwanted and violent.Sexsomnia TreatmentTreatment for sexsomnia may combine medication, therapy and lifestyle changes. Triggers, such as stress and alcohol, should be avoided. Lifestyle changes, to help reduce stress and anxiety, may also be incorporated into a personal program to best fit an individual's specific needs. Additionally, doctors may prescribe the drug clonazepam, which has been effective for some individuals suffering from this parasomnia.Sexsomnia is a chronic condition, and, therefore, treatment is essential. Seeking help can increase awareness and understanding and can help both individuals and couples deal with this disorder in a constructive and understanding way.

If you love candles your gonna love this!!!

I love candles and I have found a new "candle" that I thought everyone would like to hear about.
Now how many times have you forgot to blow a candle out before you leave the house and your roomie, husband, kids, etc have found it before you and were like "Holy cow you could've burned down the house!!!" or you just bought a new candle but can't lite it until your company leaves because you don't want their little one to try to blow it out and get burned? Your going to love Scentsy Candles!!


Scentsy Candles are a "wickless " candle. This means there is no flame to burn down your house, your kids or pets. Each burner has an on/off switch and a small watt light bulb that heats up the warmer dish that holds the wax. There are a tons of different scents and burners to fit every ones likes! They have the big burners and they also have plug-in burners that can work as a nitelite as well as making your home smell oh so good;)(I don't remember what watt bulb it is I want to say 10 or 18).


The plug-in's hold 1 but the burners can hold as many as you want to put in there.

Once you figure out what scent(s) and burner you like and you have burned your scent for a while and want to try your other scents out simply melt the wax that is in your burner, pour back into the wax holder(it will form little blocks for easy reuse once it's cooled off) take a paper towel and wipe the inside of the burner dish and then drop in however many blocks you want to burn. There is no mixing of the scents because you have wiped down the holder! Its that simple.

The website you can go vist to find a sales person in your area is scentsy.com I would check it out!!

I'm thinking a woman should let her man know what she wants...

After talking to several of my friends for the last week or so it has come to my attention that each and every relationship they are in with a man is different. Some are married for a few years, some are newly married, some are single with an "old reliable" to count on, some are dating, some are becoming life-time girlfriends in front of my eyes.
I hear my married friends talk about how it seems that their relationship isn't what it used to be when they first got with their boyfriend turned husband. It seems almost as if these couples have gotten so comfy with one another that they forgot the most important thing, just being there for one another. I also hear this from my friends that are becoming life-time girlfriends.
Ladies we are not getting married to pick up where our husband's mother's left off at! We are committing our lives to these men to love them and make a life with them. They in turn should not forget to tell us every once in a while that we are beautiful and surprise us the way they did when our love was just blooming. I'm not saying that they need to come in and thank us for everything we've done that day, day in and day out.
I have a friend that just got married about 2 months ago and her main gripe is that now they are married her man has starting treating her like she is his caregiver not his partner in life! Marriage is a two way street and it takes commitment from both of you. All it takes to make it work is to start with communication. If you feel this way you need to talk to him about it- not in a way that makes it seem as if it's a " this is how I tell you all the way's you been fucking up lately" conversation!!
I think that men need to understand that as women we wear many hats depending on our situation in life; wife, mother, friend, confidant, lover and many more. A man needs to learn to be more open with what's running through his mind-we are not mind readers nor do we want to be!! Any relationship needs to have time where you can just be a couple. Do things with only each other, no kids, no in-laws. And more importantly take time to ask how our day is and just treat us with respect and love.

Are you ready for a roadtrip.........

This is the text message I get from my husband on Thursday afternoon. This is very odd for him to say roadtrip. Now let me explain where and why he wanted to roadtrip....

Ever since we have been going to the Mustang events my husband and Jacob have wanted to adopt one and bring it home to the small zoo I'm starting to have! Which I was fine with because it's a goood thing and the mustangs have proven to be just as trainable and usable for any thing you want to do with them. Well Otis had found on the web a site where they had some listed that were going to be avaiable for adoption but you would have to bid on them instead of paying the flat fee of $125.00. So he found some on this site that we thought would workout to be a horse that Jacob could call his own. One was black and one was a reddish brown color. Otis called the ranch they were being held at and talked to the guy for over an hour. He was told that if we showed up before the 14th of March when the acution was to start we could have either of them for the $125.00!!

We talked it over for all of 5 minutes and deceided to go ahead and drive up there the fuel wasn't going to be that bad plus it would be a mini vacay as well.

So this brings me to this. We started out on time leaving the house at 6am and making it to Kansas in about 5 hours which is very good time. Along the way we saw some pretty country! We even saw a working windfarm, which I think is going to be a big part of our world's future energy resourse.

We made it to Colorado. I didn't get to see any mountains :(
What I did get to see was a nasty trailer park and a small ghetto town. A few moments after all of that wonderful sight we came up on our exit. We took the exit and Otis whips into the parking lot of this decent motel. I asked what are you doing and he said well there's smoke I gotta find out where it's coming from, people as soon as that truck stoped I jumped out I'm not about to burn in a truck in a parking lot that is not how I want it to end!!!!!

So he crawls underneath the truck and transmission fluid is GUSHING everywhere. So after a few choice words from my normally quiet clam husband we cross the highway go somemore fluid and a flashlight that will only last 10 hours then we can trash it and go back to the truck. Well needless to say it comes out. The parts store is already closed at this time. (Right now we are an hour ahead of home) So we check into the motel we are parked in. It's a chinese motel very nice people. The only places to eat is McDonald's or the chinese restraunt....Otis HATES chinese but being the loving man he is he says let's eat at the motel. I got a beef dish and he got a pork dish. His plate tasted so nasty I couldn't even finish my bite so I nicely spit it out in my napkin. I told him to try some of my beef it was decent. He took a bite and chewed it a few time and then SPIT it onto his plate!! I busted out laughing spitting fried rice EVERYWHERE people are staring at us I'm crying I'm laughing so hard and so needless to say I paid $17.80 for some nasty ass food and we ended up at Mickey D's.

We are not going to get to go to Wyoming to pick up the horse we are going to have to take the chance to win him online but if we do they will ship him to Pauls Valley and we'll only have a 2 hour drive to get him. We will go to the parts store in the am and get some transmission stop to stop the leek and limp it to my dad's in Kansas which will prolly take 6 hours instead of 3 because we will have to stop so the truck doesn't get to hot tomorrow. Spend the night with my pops and then gimp it back to Tejas. If we need to stop somewhere in Oklahoma I have enough friends and family to have a safe place to get help instead of bfe Colorado lol. So I should be home on Sunday instead of Saturday which kinda sucks but this is my crazy life :)

To Mustang or not to Mustang that is the question......

Well as everyone knows I love horses! I love the smell, the movement, the everyday challenge they bring I love it all!!!Last September Otis and I went to a thing in Ft. Worth called The Extreme Mustang Makeover and was BLOWN away. What is was is there were 200 trainers that were chosen and then they each got a wild mustang, that's right a WILD MUSTANG!! These horses were captured and brought to a holding place. The trainer's each had 100 days to tame these beautiful animals. There was also 100 yearlings that were given to 100 trainers to gentle them and get them used to human contact. The horses were all about the same age, color and size. After the display of how far the horses had came in 100 days they were offered for adoption. You had to be approved first before you could even bid on these animals. (I'll blog about the later)

They had a nighttime preformance that only 10 trainers could compete in. If you had never been around horses and saw this you would think NO WAY did this horse only have 100 days of work! I mean I've been around horses my whole life and still was watching this in awe. These horses were being ridden thru rings of fire, some without saddles, some without bridles, jumping, spinning, sliding stops and some were even shot off of (black powder no bullets). One girl Wylene Wilson rode her's with NOTHING and even had him lay down and do some really neat things.

We took Jacob and Natalie to see a similar thing in January and it was just as neat to watch. After talking to several trainers and hearing what they went thru with these horses, Otis turned to me and said you need to do this! You would rock!! So I have been thinking of getting a yearling and going to The Extreme Mustang Makeover in September and seeing how I do and if I do well and don't cry to much then maybe getting one and breaking it to ride.

(These are some pictures from January)